Separate the event from the judgement
Write the external event in one sentence using only observable facts. Then write the judgement you added to it. Ask which part is the event and which part is your claim about its meaning or value.
Inventory what is yours
For the problem in front of you, list your judgements, intentions, choices, and actions separately from outcomes, reputation, other people, and circumstances. Do not use this to pretend externals are irrelevant; use it to identify where moral agency actually sits.
Delay assent
When a charged impression arrives, name it as an impression before deciding that it is true. Give yourself enough space to ask what evidence supports the judgement and what alternative account is possible.
Audit desire and aversion
Choose one recurring fear or craving. Ask what outcome you are demanding, what you believe would be terrible if denied, and whether you have attached your peace of mind to something that is not wholly yours.
Rehearse the role before the encounter
Before a difficult meeting, conversation, or duty, decide what excellent conduct in your role would require from you regardless of how the other person behaves. Enter the situation with that standard already chosen.
Review the day by judgement, not outcome
At the end of the day, examine where you assented too quickly, demanded an external result, acted beneath your role, or corrected yourself well. Measure progress by the quality of your judgement and action, not by whether circumstances rewarded you.